May 1, 2002

Dear Mark,

Personal Value is the topic of Chapter 6. Here are some more personal observations, war stories and things that relate to increasing one's personal value.

I know a young woman who seems to have a talent for improving her personal value by learning quickly about things in which she has taken an interest. I noticed this characteristic for the first time when a friend invited her to go fishing. She immediately went to the book store and bought a book entitled Fishing For Dummies. I guess I'm a dummy. A scan of her book I learned there are easy ways to tie knots in plastic fishing line. She was quite prepared when she went fishing without years of actual experience. Since then I notice in almost every new situation in her career, she educates herself in the new interest. I wonder who taught her that. Don't you agree that she must create immediate value to herself and to those for whom she works? Does this make sense to you? Do you know anybody who works to improve themselves? Does it work for them?

Another way to remain confident and hold on to your value is to appraise yourself and your associates. This could be called ''theory of negativity''. You can make up your own or use this fun little negativity test that I read about. Make a statement like this to your friends or even your relatives," I believe that we should develop a program to eliminate prisons in the United States." Some will say, "That's the most ridiculous idea I ever heard of." Some may say, "Where did you come up with such a stupid thought." Someone might offer a positive response. "That would be great! I'd like to hook onto that. For instance we could begin by ending imprisonment for people who only cause problems for themselves."

The person that hooks up to your positive proposition and adds to or expands upon it should be reserved for sharing things of value. Share things of value only with people with positive attitudes. You will waste your time with the negative types. They will drag you down.

If you are ambitious and want someday to be president of your company. Share that thought with a friend or family member and they will probably laugh at you. Share it with the president of your company and you will be told how possible that can be!

Be kind. Be understanding. Be compassionate. But don't waste valuable time on people who spend their time tearing down ideas. Beware of statements like, "I'm going to be the devil's advocate on this." The Devil doesn't need an advocate.

From time to time, think about how much you are worth. Can you make yourself more valuable? How should you go about it? The answer is quite simple.

Dad

Chapter 6
PERSONAL VALUE

Anytime is a good time to do your inventory and begin to add some personal value. When you have been doing the same job for a while you forget how afraid you were at the beginning. How little you knew? So, except for learning how to do that job better, you quit preparing yourself for the next job. Suddenly, you are given a new responsibility and you realize how much you have to learn. A new job assignment is definitely a time when you should add some value options to become more valuable to yourself and your company. How you value yourself can affect your ability to achieve success in your business and social life. Loss of confidence is often a value issue. Maybe you are listening to the negativity around you. Or maybe you concentrate so heavily on the day to day that you forget that you need more equipment to progress. You should think about your personal value. Periodically conduct a personal inventory and begin to rebuild your personal value characteristic.

How do you conduct this inventory? Obviously, you are not a car, but the Internet has a great deal of help in determining the value of cars. Even dealers use the Internet value ratings. Go to a new or used car site. A value pops up based on the car having the regular equipment for a given model. Then the questionnaire provides spaces to add up the options. These include such things as tires upgrade, wheels upgrade, moon roof, running boards, spoilers and so forth. Each adds value to the base price. Add it all up and the automobile with upgrades has a higher value than the basic model with basic equipment. This is so simple. It also works with people, the options include education, experience, people skills and many, many more things.

Do you know anyone who reacts to new responsibilities by crash programming to acquire the new but necessary skills? Is not this a good thing? Observe and learn more about how they know what to do. Remember, do not be afraid to ask someone successful how they do what they do. If you are sincere, they will sincerely help you and get satisfaction from doing so. Would you not share your success secrets with someone who wants to be as successful? Don't rely on just anybody to build your self-worth. Only the exceptional people will actually try to sincerely build you up. Personal value is of importance primarily to yourself. However, you can recharge your self-esteem if you itemize your value assets just as you do your monetary assets from time to time. Some companies have very good training programs to help people perform better in each new assignment. Many do not offer such things because finding the resources are costly and time consuming and they won't budget the money. But, if you do the homework and find some course, or seminar that would be of benefit to you and the company you might be surprised by the company's willingness to pay for the training. Everything doesn't have to be learned the hard way. You can make a better life for yourself, your company, your subordinates and your superiors if you take the steps to increasing your personal value. You will be more respected! Build your personal value and your financial rewards will come.

There are creative methods for increasing personal value that are so basic and simple, it makes you wonder why everybody doesn't do it. This is easy!

Educate yourself. Whatever your circumstance, find a course, a seminar, a book or whatever tool is available to give yourself a leg up on getting your job done right and efficiently. Don't expect your company to pay for it. This is for you and to increase your personal value. However, if the company is willing to fund this effort, accept their offer. They will get their money's worth.

Train yourself. Find someone who has done your job, or something similar and pick their brains. You won't be trying to imitate what they did. You'll simply find a way to shortcut your learning process.

Educate and train those who report to you. If you have a lot of different responsibilities, assign a person to one of the important responsibilities and encourage them to increase their personal value. If you have the authority, fund their attendance at a seminar. Then have them show you what you have learned by performing that responsibility. As the supervisor, you don't have to know everything, but through your people you should be able to accomplish anything. Also, you will have created a competent member of your staff to whom you can delegate authority and therefore practice your homogeneous assignment ability. And by the way, you'll look like an excellent manager and a genius at personnel selection. Your personal value has just been increased.

Educate and train those who are ancillary to you. How to do this is to suggest to their supervisor, or them directly, depending on the situation to educate themselves to increase their own personal value. Guess who benefits? You!

The Prayer of Saint Francis

Lord, make me an instrument of Your peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
where there is sadness, joy.

O, Divine Master,
grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love;
For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
it is in dying that we are born again to eternal life.